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Beyond Pronatalism

Finding fulfillment, with or without kids

To have or not have kids is one of the biggest decisions we make in our lives, and yet how many of us know that we even have a choice about how we define and create our families? Beyond Pronatalism host Nandita Bajaj interviews women and men from diverse backgrounds who are courageously and creatively navigating pronatalism - the powerful pressures to have children - whether from family, friends, or the culture at large. Through intimate conversations, they discuss how they are forging unconventional pathways to fulfillment, including redefining what family means to them - whether that means being childfree or childless, having biological children, adopting or fostering children or animals, or creating close-knit communities of friends and loved ones.

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Lucy | Thriving Solo
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Lucy | Thriving Solo

Growing up Lucy assumed she’d follow the traditional path of marriage and motherhood but, as she grew older, she found herself increasingly questioning the dominant cultural script. Despite a brief period of intense broodiness, she realized that the single, childfree life gave her the freedom, peace, and purpose that she craved. Today, through her Thrive Solo podcast and book, Lucy empowers others to reject pronatalist expectations and embrace happiness on their own terms.

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Mandy | Ending a Bad Arranged Marriage
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Mandy | Ending a Bad Arranged Marriage

Mandy, a Singaporean teacher of Indian descent, entered an arranged marriage where her decision to remain childfree was first accepted but later challenged by her Indian husband and in-laws. Pressured to have children and provide a dowry, she risked the stigma of divorce rather than compromise her values. Today, Mandy lives happily childfree, courageously embracing a life true to her authentic self.

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Rebecca | Sisters as Chosen Life Partners
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Rebecca | Sisters as Chosen Life Partners

Rebecca grew up homeschooled in a patriarchal American family, later serving as a Marine, attending university, and traveling the world. Bound by the shared trauma and values of their upbringing, Rebecca remained very close to her sister. Awakening to feminism and the planetary crisis together, they both decided to not have children. Today, Rebecca and her sister live together as each other's chosen life partners surrounded by mutual security, comfort, love, and trust.

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Sneha | Standing up to Patriarchy
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Sneha | Standing up to Patriarchy

Raised in a conservative Indian family, Sneha knew from an early age that they didn't want to have a biological child. As a teen they discovered her queer identity, and in their twenties Sneha made the difficult but liberating decision to leave their parents’ house and hometown. Sneha has rejected the patriarchal expectations of procreation and marriage and embraced their own path - filled with strong friendships, family, and companion animals.

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Pip | The Joyful Simplicity of Being Single
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Pip | The Joyful Simplicity of Being Single

From a very early age Pip sensed she didn’t want children, and a diagnosis of premature ovarian failure at 15 confirmed that path. As she grew older, Pip found herself desperately searching for the perfect partner to complete her. A chance conversation blew open the door regarding societal expectations around relationships, sex, and conventional measures of success. Childfree, single, and celibate, Pip lives an independent, authentic, and joyful life with her family of two rescue dogs.

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Joe | Every Earthling is My Family
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Joe | Every Earthling is My Family

Growing up in rural England, Joe knew early in life that he didn’t want children and felt a deep connection to the natural world. While navigating pressures to conform to “normal” life, he lost that connection in his 20s. Now, alongside his partner, he’s built a purposeful life rooted in love for nonhuman life — founding and managing an ecocentric journal and working to protect biodiversity in his local habitat.

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Jennifer | From Divorce to Self-Discovery
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Jennifer | From Divorce to Self-Discovery

After nearly becoming a mother in a marriage that wasn’t right, Jennifer shares how divorce and a commitment to self-definition became her path to clarity. Starting over has been emotionally wrenching, but she's forging her own path of deep friendship, meaningful community service, and dedication to authentically being herself.

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Kat | A Black Feminist Upbringing
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Kat | A Black Feminist Upbringing

Raised in a Black feminist family of highly educated women committed to service, Kat Calvin grew up without the pressure to marry or have children. Single and childfree, Kat channels her time and energy into projects that make a difference - building a life of purpose, freedom, and joy.

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Paddy | Joyfully Rejecting the System
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Paddy | Joyfully Rejecting the System

Paddy’s emotionally-detached boarding school upbringing left him distrustful of authority, including the unspoken expectation to have children. A growing awareness of ecological and social crises and the desire to break a cycle of generational family trauma led him to choose a vasectomy. Today, he and his wife enjoy a joyful childfree life while standing up to oppressive systems.

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Luke and Stefanie | The Simple Joys of a Childfree Life
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Luke and Stefanie | The Simple Joys of a Childfree Life

Luke and Stefanie reflect on how, free from strong family or religious pressure and true to their own desires, they were able to make an early, mutual decision to live childfree. They reflect on the enormous emotional weight they've seen parents carry and express a profound relief and gratitude that they can enjoy meaningful, well-lived, childfree lives in kinship with the natural world.

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Nicole | The Rich Lives  of Women Without Kids
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Nicole | The Rich Lives of Women Without Kids

Nicole grew up in a traditional household in Brazil, but knew from an early age that motherhood was not for her. When she found herself with a partner who decided he did want kids, she embarked on a journey of discovery about the many pathways life could take outside of our reproductive capacity. This journey included not only deep self-reflection, but interviewing 14 incredible women and publishing a book that tells their stories.

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Tania and Brian | Healing Together with Animals
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Tania and Brian | Healing Together with Animals

Deeply in love with each other and their 38 animals, Tania and Brian share their vastly different upbringing that set them on their childfree paths. Tania and her family moved to the U.S. on asylum from Ukraine post-Chernobyl. Brian grew up in a Latino/Native American family in Texas, U.S. with severely limited resources. Their love for animals brought them together.

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Lili | Escaping the Dread of Motherhood
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Lili | Escaping the Dread of Motherhood

Born and raised in Haiti, and now living in the US, Lili shares her story about her pronatalist upbringing in which having large families was the norm. After many years of dreading motherhood, she learned about the choice to not have children. Today, Lili is happily childfree and is using her spare time and resources to support others in her family and community.

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Episodes will be released every two weeks, beginning Tuesday, July 30 2024, and will be available on Apple podcasts, Spotify, and all podcast platforms.

Producer and Host: Nandita Bajaj

Production Team: Josh Wild, Alan Ware

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